Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry for Having Doughnuts for Lunch

April 20, 2012


A little lunch for two one Sunday afternoon….

Not a nutritionally sound meal, no. But after eggs, avocado and sourdough for breakfast it kind of felt right, like it somewhat balanced out. So on this Sunday, a day devoted to rest and recuperation, I had doughnuts for lunch. And boy, was it delicious.

After seeing a lot of people with unhealthy food relationships lately (in life and at work), I felt the need to express my feelings on the subject. So here it goes…

A healthy diet means sometimes having doughnuts for lunch. And being ok with it. Truly enjoying it without any guilt.

This often elusive healthy diet requires a kind, honest, nurturing, non-accusatory relationship with food. And with yourself. Trust yourself and your body.

It’s not always easy, but it is so important to remove guilt surrounding food. Labelling food as ‘good’, ‘bad’ or ‘naughty’ does not foster a healthy relationship with food. Rather it does the exact opposite, placing these ‘naughty’ foods on pedestals and, for many, encourages a restriction-binge-guilt cycle.

Removing guilt and food labels allows you to cut through negative energy so you can focus solely on what your body needs and nourishing yourself properly. Your body is smart, it will make the right decision. For lunch that will usually translate to vibrant, fresh salads or other such wholesome meals. Last Sunday, I needed doughnuts.


And that’s the darn truth.

Sparkling Water

Ben and I enjoyed fresh Fuji Apple and Nashi Pear from Oakleigh Market.

With Noisette Chocolate Brioche and Queen Victoria Market fresh Jam Doughnuts.

I’ve never felt healthier.

And that’s the darn truth.

Heidi xo
  • Emma - Living through our renovations... April 20, 2012 at 7:32 am

    Yes! Agree 100%!

    And nothing drives me madder than the people who tell me I shouldn't eat fruit because it's full of sugar….and usually suggest some type of diet food instead. Grr!

    PS, the doughnuts look delicious!

  • Karz April 20, 2012 at 7:59 am

    You enjoy your donuts Heids 🙂 Great post! x

  • Michelle Chin April 20, 2012 at 8:22 am

    Ooh you buy your stuff from vic market too!!!

    The chocolate brioche from noisette is awesome!

    I tend to not eat doughnuts or the likes because I am afraid that i might be addicted to the taste of sugar. 🙁

  • Miss T April 20, 2012 at 8:58 am

    Bring it. Infact, Im heading there now to get a brioche….

  • Lisa (bakebikeblog) April 20, 2012 at 9:11 am

    love it!!!

  • Heidi April 20, 2012 at 9:19 am

    Emma – glad you're on the same page!

    Karz – thanks 🙂

    Michelle – if I'm in the area I go to Vic Market, it's great!

    Miss T – yum! Following that with a salad perhaps?? 😛 can't help myself.

    Lisa – thanks, lady! Really hoping people see the point of this post…

    Heidi xo

  • Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella April 20, 2012 at 9:42 am

    LOL Heidi I loved the title of this post! It would make the best book chapter title 😛

  • raDfooD April 20, 2012 at 9:53 am

    What a delicious spread! I've never really thought about putting food on a pedestal before but you are so right. Now how to change that… hmm

  • Wendy April 20, 2012 at 10:10 am

    I love this post! You have eloquently described what I have always thought relationships with food should be like. Too often I hear people say to me "but you're a dietitian! I can't believe you're eating that!" when they see me eating something they feel is unhealthy. I always say to them that I'm a dietitian because I love food not because I hate it and want to banish them!

  • Lisa April 20, 2012 at 12:31 pm

    Oh I so agree with that sentiment! Everything in moderation is definitely my way of thinking. My great weakness is salt and vinegar chips. I LOVE them. The rule is that they are not allowed in the house, therefore if I want some I have to be prepared to go out and get them. Means I only have them when I have a real craving, not as a random snack.

    Oh and I think that was an awesome Sunday lunch!

  • Leah April 20, 2012 at 1:49 pm

    Mmmm donuts. Who doesnt want donuts for lunch 😉 I havent had them in such a long time, I can't even remember when I did!

  • Heidi April 20, 2012 at 2:12 pm

    Lorraine – omg you're so right! haha thanks 🙂

    raDfooD – it takes time, we're so used to doing it! Just focus on nourishing yourself and making your body happy, that's the best place to start 🙂

    Wendy – thanks, lovely, so happy you felt I articulated it well!

    Lisa – thanks for the support! I've become obsessed with making my own S&V; potatoes, so yummy, hits the spot. Quality chips are rather amazing 🙂

    Leah – I am so keen to make my own!

    Heidi xo

  • Oh, Natalie.. April 20, 2012 at 3:52 pm

    Hear hear! I wholeheartedly agree.

    Besides, I think the second you tell yourself you can eat whatever you want whenever you want, lusting after foods like doughnuts around the clock disappears. It's when we tell ourselves they're 'bad', and eat 4.8kgs of them because 'we won't have them tomorrow' we get into a danger zone.

    I believe the body will balance out to wanting/needing the wholesome, healthy stuff 80% off the time anyway.

    Peeps be crazy, eat and be happy! x

  • Kari April 20, 2012 at 5:38 pm

    I love and agree with this stance in a completely whole hearted way 🙂

  • Hannah April 20, 2012 at 8:24 pm

    I love you so much. xo

  • msihua April 20, 2012 at 10:14 pm

    Yayy! I too often indulge.. not every meal.. else I'd need to join a certain reality tv show..but at the end of the day it's all about balance and taking the middle path isn't it?

  • Hannah April 21, 2012 at 7:27 am

    Love it! Too true. I actually had leftover homemade pumpkin pie for breakfast yesterday- couldn't have been happier 🙂 x

  • Heidi April 21, 2012 at 4:57 pm

    Natalie – love your comment 🙂 thanks.

    Kari – thank you! So lovely to hear.

    Hannah – right back at ya, lady xo

    msihua – word. I should stop saying "word"…

    Hannah – you're so on it, lovely 😉

    Heidi xo

  • Just a small town girl April 22, 2012 at 5:19 pm

    I agree Heidi its all about moderation, as you mentioned people have an all or nothing relationship with food. Very black and white. I think you have demonstrated well on your blog that people can enjoy a little bit of everything.Good Job:) Btw, those doughnuts look good.

  • The InTolerant Chef April 22, 2012 at 10:00 pm

    Yummy lunch indeed! Everyone needs sometimes foods some of the time 🙂

  • Ashley April 25, 2012 at 11:25 am

    Mmm, doughnuts for lunch, what could be better? 🙂 I struggled for a long time with finding the right balance when it came to eating, I was one of those people who labelled food as 'bad' or 'good' but at the end of the day, you're right, it's a little of everything and some indulgence (or more often than I should, but that's okay too ;))

  • Daisy@Nevertoosweet May 1, 2012 at 12:47 am

    Oh damn i thought i left a comment but somehow it's disappeared 😛 doesn't matter but i totally agree with you Heidi to have a healthy diet means you can have donuts for lunch sometimes, then salads other days, exercise when you can and everything in moderation 😀 It's quite sad when I see some friends who are on diet all the time 🙁 I don't really think they even enjoy eating >_

  • Heidi May 1, 2012 at 6:44 am

    Just a small town girl – thank you 🙂

    InTolerant Chef – the exact definition of "sometimes" food, hey?

    Ashley – good on you for finding a balance, it can be really very hard to change your thinking!

    Daisy – it is very sad, isn't it! trying to encourage that change 🙂

    Heidi xo

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