David’s 30th Birthday Party

October 30, 2012

Thank you for all your truly lovely, warm, comforting comments on my recent post about my brother’s birthday. I wish I could send you all a batch of I Miss Him Cookies as a thank you. I feel very special to have such love sent my way, my whole family does. What gorgeous people you are.

Turning 30 is a big deal, so as hard as it all is, we knew we wanted to celebrate. Last Sunday we had close family friends around to my parents’ house and threw a party for David. While it was absolutely beautiful, it was absolutely heartbreaking. But I kept most of my emotions tucked away in that little corner of my heart so as to be able to actually make it through the day.

Mum and Dad made CDs filled with David’s music, his classic compositions as well some lyrical works. Later in the day we all gathered to admire the memorial sculpture our incredibly talented friend made. It’s the most beautiful piece of art I have ever seen. 
And we ate, of course we ate. Thanks for friends for bringing nibbles, cheese and delicious salads to go with our food. Mum made gorgeous galettes with leek, roasted capsicum and olives (using Maggi Beer’s sour cream pastry), as well as ham and cheese croissants and sausages with onion and chutneys in rolls. And Ben and I made peanut butter cookies and ricotta doughnuts for sweets.

It was really, really lovely… a special sun-kissed day. I just wish that David could have been there to celebrate with us. He would have loved the attention. And the peanut butter cookies, his favourite.











Heidi xo

  • Blithely Unaware October 30, 2012 at 9:02 am

    I thought that might have been what you were doing on the weekend.
    It looks like you had a beautiful, sunshine, love filled day, somewhat bittersweet though.

    I know these days are hard for you and it is so much easier sometimes to ignore or push those feelings away but I'm so glad you haven't forgotten in the process – it's too easy to forget.

    Much love to you Heidi, much love.


  • Taryn October 30, 2012 at 9:25 am

    Love to you and your family Heidi, David was a wonderful person xxx

  • Hannah October 30, 2012 at 12:15 pm

    So so proud of you and your family. And so glad that you and your family, and friends, were able to be there for each other to laugh and cry with support and love all around.

    A few weekends ago, back home, there was a memorial/celebration/remembrance of Jerome on his birthday, almost exactly six months after he passed away. I wish I could have been there.

  • Lisa @ Blithe Moments October 30, 2012 at 12:32 pm

    I'm so glad you celebrated his birthday, such an important thing to do I think. We have celebrated a few birthdays for people not still there and it seems such a better time to commemorate them than the anniversary of their passing. It is still sad, but happy as well with all those birthday memories.
    Hugs to you and your family.

  • Leah October 30, 2012 at 1:13 pm

    Sending love and hugs to you and your family Heidi xo

  • Leah October 30, 2012 at 1:13 pm

    Sending love and hugs to you and your family Heidi xo

  • xoCATox October 30, 2012 at 1:24 pm

    I didn't get the chance to read your last post until now, but it was such a beautiful piece. It broke my heart a little, but also filled it with joy at the love that you so very clearly have for your brother.

    His party looks beautiful, and I'm sure he was there with you all in spirit, celebrating this special occasion!

    You're such a strong, beautiful woman, Heidi. I'm sure that a big part of that is due to him being with you every step of the way, and guiding you along! xx

  • Ros October 30, 2012 at 3:13 pm

    What a beautiful celebration. Much love to you and your family x

  • Yasmeen October 30, 2012 at 3:28 pm

    I'm so glad you can all get together and celebrate your brother's life together. It truly honors him that instead of locking it away, you face it as a family, and embrace what a wonderful person I'm sure he was.

  • Hannah October 30, 2012 at 7:00 pm

    Such a special day filled with family, friends and good food 🙂 It sounds like a beautiful celebration for your brother. Thinking of you Heidi x

  • Sig October 30, 2012 at 7:07 pm

    What a beautiful day full of family and sunshine. You look beautiful as well. It truly was a wonderful way to celebrate his life and memory and I hope you got through it ok. *hugs*

  • Jac October 30, 2012 at 8:17 pm

    What a lovely way to celebrate your brother. I'm sure he was there with you all 🙂

  • Heidi October 31, 2012 at 9:20 am

    Blithely Unaware – I'm hoping to actively do more things to not forget. Like thinking about it all more. Thanks, lady xo

    Taryn – thank you, lovely xo

    Hannah – oh yes, of course you do. But thinking about him by yourself is just as important, so I hope you find comfort in that. Lots of love, my dear.

    Lisa – thank you. It's a nice thing do to 🙂

    Leah – thanks, lovely.

    Cat – that's so lovely, thank you so much 🙂

    Ros – thank you 🙂

    Yasmeen – thanks 🙂

    Hannah – thanks for your thoughts.

    Sig – we did, thanks 🙂

    Jac – thank you 🙂

    Heidi xo

  • Not Quite Nigella October 31, 2012 at 6:04 pm

    What a beautiful way to remember David Heidi. I'm sure he was with you, smiling. I just get that feeling 🙂 x

  • The InTolerant Chef October 31, 2012 at 9:14 pm

    What a lovely way of creating positive memories Heidi. I'm glad it was such a lovely day 🙂

  • msihua October 31, 2012 at 9:23 pm

    So so lovely to celebrate his life and birthday this way! All my love 🙂

  • Iron Chef Shellie November 1, 2012 at 4:59 pm

    Sunshine, family, food and memories <3 I think he was looking down and joining in the fun xox

  • Daisy@Nevertoosweet November 2, 2012 at 4:15 pm

    With all that food and love 🙂 I'm sure David would have enjoyed his 30th party ~ Lots of love! xox

  • Heidi November 2, 2012 at 4:54 pm

    Lorraine – thanks, lady!

    InTolerant Chef – thank you 🙂

    Msihua – thanks 🙂

    Michele – hope so 🙂

    Daisy – thank you!

    Heidi xo

  • KittyCate November 4, 2012 at 4:00 pm

    Sending so much love your way Heidi. You guys are just such a beautiful family, I feel kind of like I know you all, and David is such a tangible presence on your blog, in a lovely, bittersweet way – these posts celebrating his life are beautiful xxx

  • Ashley November 19, 2012 at 8:05 pm

    What a beautiful celebration, I may be drooling over that cheese board in the picture above…..